How do you keep going when you’re sick and tired of TTC?
"I’m sick and tired of this infertility journey. How do I keep going even when I feel resentful and hopeless?”
Watch my video to learn how to keep going when you feel like giving up.
Okay, so I'm sure at some point on your fertility journey you've been like, ah, wanting to pull your hair out and just like, "Why am I doing this? It hasn't worked so far, I'm sick and tired of taking supplements, or taking my PBT temperatures, or eating healthy, not eating gluten, doing all of these things for my fertility and they haven't worked yet." And maybe some days you just feel like throwing in the towel and quitting all of these health practices that you've put into place to improve your fertility.
And maybe you're feeling really resentful of all these health changes that you've had to make, especially since you haven't gotten pregnant yet or maybe you've gotten pregnant but you've miscarried. And you'll probably look at other women that seemingly on the outside, maybe it was super easy for them to get pregnant and they're not following any kind of health, maybe they don't maybe look that healthy and you're like, "Why are they getting pregnant so easily? I'm so much healthier than they are, and I'm not getting pregnant and I'm doing all these things."
And if you feel that way, if there are some days that you're just pissed off and you're just like, "Ah, all I wanna do is eat a carton of ice cream, and drink wine, and go crazy with gluten, and quit taking all these supplements, quit going to acupuncture, quit doing the acupressure, any of this stuff." And you just feel like you want to go back to living a normal life.
I totally get it. You are absolutely 100% not alone because I hear this from almost every woman who's on their journey at some point. And that's where I step in and I cheerlead them and I'm like, "I know it's so hard and you're doing amazing, and please don't throw in the towel though, maybe a little cheat here and there, but try to stay consistent." Otherwise a roller coaster of doing all of these things to support your fertility and then dropping the ball on that, you're not really going to move forward much. It'll be like two steps forward, one step back, or one step forward, one step back. And then that will be kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, like, "Nothing's working for me."
Well, there's that, but also I invite you to reframe the intention behind all the efforts that you are making all of the self-fulfilling, amazing, beautiful efforts that you're making and to give yourself a big pat on the back for taking responsibility for supporting your fertility. Give yourself a loving hug on those days that you're super frustrated, and you feel like throwing in the towel, and if you do get off course and do something that's not the healthiest, don't beat yourself up. It's totally fine, you just get back up on that horse.
What I would invite you to do is to reframe your intention around everything that you're doing for fertility and instead of looking at it as the long list of chores that you're doing in the hopes of it finally working so that you can finally get pregnant and having a healthy baby, and then every time, when you're not pregnant, or until you are pregnant, you're feeling really resentful of these health changes that you make.
I instead invite you to consider it an act of self-love and self-care, rather than for the goal of simply getting pregnant and having a baby. I's kind of like going back to that saying, "It's all about the journey, not the destination." Obviously Destination Baby is a worthwhile destination, and it's going to be an amazing one when you're there and you will be there. Then you'll be starting a whole new journey without a destination or you'll feel like there's this destination, but it'll be all about the journey, really, of raising a child.
And this journey of infertility, or rather fertility, I don't really like to call women infertile, it's a journey of self-love and self-care. You're honoring your sacred calling to parenthood, and while it is harder for you than it may be for some other women, it's probably harder for a reason. There's probably, not that you're deserving of it, but there's probably a beautiful way that you're going to grow that make your journey, I see it as being especially special, not necessarily a curse or because you've done something wrong.
But the thing is, all of the efforts that you are making to be more fertile are going to benefit you for the rest of your life. The things that I teach women in my program, Fertility Activation Method, and what I teach on my website and so forth will benefit the longevity of the women that follow these and can potentially help prevent breast cancer or the exacerbation of the autoimmune disease, and so forth. This is your big-picture health so everything that you're doing to support your fertility is actually supporting your whole health and not just the health of your body and your reproductive organs, but your mental health, your emotional health, and your spiritual health as well as your physical health.
All of these aspects of your health will affect your outer world as well as your inner physical world, and your inner mental, emotional world. It'll affect the quality of your life. It'll affect your relationships with loved ones, it will affect your relationship to your work, and your career, and any of the choices that you make in your life. Because what you do to support your whole health will support every aspect of your life. It's really easy to get caught up in I'm not pregnant, or I'm pregnant, and therefore what I'm doing is either not working or working, and I'm just really tired of having to do all of this stuff, and I'm not even pregnant.
So again, instead of making all of the efforts that you're doing to support your fertility about getting pregnant only, I invite you to shift that idea and look at it as a daily practice of self-love and self-care. Because that's what it is, it's a daily practice, it's us making choices on the day to day to love ourselves. And sometimes we're not going to make the best, most loving choice, and that's okay, because then we have another choice a moment later, and another one a moment later. "Do I drink a soda or do I drink some lemon water with a sprig of mint?"
Those choices add up, and those are choices of self-love and self-care. At that moment that you choose the lemon water with a sprig of mint, which is delightful, you're choosing loving, loving yourself. You're choosing to care for your body, and care for your wellbeing, and to honor your goal of getting pregnant, and knowing that this is more supportive of that goal. And so, therefore, you're living in alignment with yourself and your calling, and your soul's purpose and your spirit, and that will create whole health.
So on that note, I was going to end it there, I was like, yeah, boom, mic drop. But I do want to let that if you're interested in learning more about my methods, my approach to supporting your fertility and supporting your wellbeing, and your health, and your whole health, including your emotional and mental and spiritual wellbeing, then I would invite you to watch my webinar. You can sign up for it, it's a free masterclass.
It's called My Number One Fertility Secret For Getting Pregnant Without Drugs Or IVF, but it's totally appropriate, even if you are doing fertility treatment, you're still going to want to watch this. I talk about my methods and specifically my four-step method for improving your overall health so that you can get pregnant, so that you can have a better quality of life, and so that you can practice self-love and reach your fertility and health goals. All right, so I'll see you later.