When looking back on your childhood, it’s probably safe to say that there are moments you cherish that make you feel all warm and fuzzy, and other moments you hope to never repeat with your kids during your parenting career.
They say cycles repeat themselves, despite our valiant efforts to shut them down.
In fact, our efforts to prevent a cycle from repeating itself may be so drastic that on a subconscious level we prevent ourselves from even having the chance!
It may be a case of self-sabotage by preventing yourself from the parenting opportunity to ever arise, like never having the right relationship.
In other cases, it may be that you carry negative feelings about your childhood in your body, especially your reproductive organs, so that it’s affecting your ability to conceive.
Tricky stuff, eh?
Our subconscious is wicked powerful. That’s why I truly believe in the importance of taking a deep look at uncomfortable feelings and bringing them into consciousness.
Otherwise subconscious beliefs can control our lives in ways that prevent us from fulfilling our dreams – like having a family.
For example, one of my patients has a constant pain in the middle of her upper belly that’s worse with her period. She overworks, leaving with her little time for rest and rejuvenation, let alone eating. She’s underweight and overstressed as a result. Her thyroid levels are low and her fertility suffers for it.
We spoke about her childhood and I came to learn that her parents were emotionally abusive to her growing up. She couldn’t do anything right, no matter how hard she tried and was constantly given a talking-to, which made her stomach tie up in knots and feel nauseous. They even shamed her for wanting birthday gifts.
It turns out she’s working for bosses that treat their employees the exact same way her parents treated her. She’s reliving this childhood trauma on a daily basis, working her tail off in the hopes of not being reprimanded for impossible-to-please bosses. Her stomach ties up in knots anytime they ask to talk to her. And she doesn’t feel she has the right to ask for anything, like respect and a raise.
On a subconscious level, she’s reliving childhood trauma and it’s continuing to take a significant toll on her physical and mental health, so much that it may prevent her from actualizing her own dreams of being a parent. I have every confidence, however, that this woman would make an amazing and incredibly loving parent.
It kills me to see such a caring, gifted and deserving woman suffer in her work life, let alone see her health suffer as result.
It takes a ton of effort and courage to not only look at the emotional patterns from your past, but to also make changes in your life once you recognize the impact it’s having on your health and happiness. There’s no going back once that Pandora’s box is opened.
But when you choose to release what isn’t serving you anymore, the real deeper healing begins.
And from that point, you have the power to make your wildest dreams come true!